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I have decided to add my cowboy hat to the boot and belt so I can complete my wardrobe lol! I post about this because of the passion I have had over the last few years on learning how to dance and compete in this sport.  I try to look at this and figure out why I am so taken with it?  I do have fun and get tremendous enjoyment out of it and having the chance to playing a “role” so to speak on the day of competition.

I will be 49 years old next week and have come to realize as I get older I wonder like others “is this all there is”? I mean this in the sense of working for a corporation, trying to climb a ladder, acquiring things and then realizing this does not mean anything and you do not get any self-worth out of this in the long run.

Learning how to dance and compete has given me a new chapter in my life and something positive to focus on instead of the same old drudgery day in and day out.  For the most part no one tells you this in your 20’s or if they did I didn’t listen!! I have decided I am not going to sit here and ride out the rest of my life doing the same job everyday and not learning anything new so I will take charge and learn new things on my own. I have recently attended a personal trainer workshop and testing with my next focus on group fitness training.

I know one thing, the people who I have met dancing are some of the most positive people I have met and lots of them are over 70 and very active which I really admire.  The decision I have made at this point in my life is to hang out with “positive people” and my hat, boot, belt reminds me of this and I encourage anyone not to remain stagnant but do something totally out of character that what you are used to.  I know I did, by dressing like a Cowboy!! My momma and her friends think I look like George Strait lol, I don’t know about that but it sure is fun.

Cowboy Hat, Boots, Belt

Well, I finally did it!! I completed by outfit that I need to wear for the dance competition I compete in!.  I have posted previously about wearing a cowboy hat (which I never had before) and swore I would not wear cowboy boots, let alone some kind of “western belt” LOL. I have posted photo below only of the boots and belt with a previous post showing my hat!

Anyway, I only share to show we can’t take ourselves to seriously and to have fun and laugh while we are able to because we do not know what life circumstances will develop to change that.  There are a lot of things that I thought I would never do that I am doing now and have the time of my life and I encourage anyone thinking about trying something different to make the decision and do because “you can’t be afraid of being afraid”!!

My complete dance comp wardrobe

Thank you all for the kind comments about my dog Molly that I had to put down several weeks ago.  I still catch myself looking for her running up the driveway to greet me when I would get home. I wanted to share the photo of Molly’s grave site and how we have made a small flower bed out of it in her honor.

The reason for the title to my post is the quote below from Albert Einstein:

Everybody is a genius.  But, if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will spend its whole life believing that it is stupid.

— Albert Einstein, physicist, Nobel laureate (1879-1955)

I read this and it started me to think about a few things about life that I wanted to share and how sometimes we might make a big deal out of something or pound our heads against the wall in futility for something that may not be achievable.  Think about what it would really look like if a fish was truly trying to climb a tree! The most likely response would be “Look at that stupid fish”, doesn’t even know how to climb a tree.  This assumption would be made because you may have the ability to climb the tree and the fish doesn’t.

I find my self thinking that way about my dog! My dog will chase and bark at  Buzzards that are flying in the air above our house and I will think “Stupid dog, you can’t fly and catch that Buzzard!”  My dog like most dogs are very smart and if I judge my dog based on the fact she can’t fly and catch the buzzard then she may believe she is stupid which would be an incorrect assumption.

I find this quote to be particularly relevant in the workplace where someone may label you as stupid because you are unable or have the skill level to do what they do when in fact you may actually be smarter person.   This could apply to hobbies as well as in my situation where I enjoy taking dance lessons. I have been in group lessons and hear comments about someone being a “terrible dancer” of they “must be dumb”.

So when I sit back and think about this quote I truly believe we “are all geniuses” and just because someone is not cut out to do a particular thing does not make them stupid and to the people who hear that from someone; don’t believe it!  You may not have the ability to “climb a tree” or “fly like the bird”, but you are good at something and while you try don’t let those around you judge and call you “stupid” because we all are a genius at something, we just have to find out what it is.

Every once in a while I will post a blog about my dog molly and based on a recent experience I thought it was time for another.  Last year Molly became very sick with vomiting, not eating, and very lethargic so I took her to the vet and she was diagnosed with pancreatitis and kept her for 3 days for a charge if about $400.00.  The vet said because of her age (12) this is a chronic condition that could flare up anytime, by the way Molly is a lab mix.

Anyway, several weeks ago she began to develop these same symptoms again and due to her age and talking to others with old dogs this was old age and she was on the verge of death. I placed in her in the garage on the dog bed and tried to make her comfortable and she just laid there.  I was not really in a position for another large vet bill especially for an older dog with a chronic problem.  I had water for her but he hardly drank as I knew she needed to keep hydrated. I bought pedialite and she would drink this with her water which I thought was good sign, but during the first 5 days of being sick she had not eaten anything.

After 5 days she appeared to be trying to respond but didn’t have any energy and I had tried to give her some protein shake but she wouldn’t drink it.  I was trying to figure out something she would eat to get her strength back and if she would recover then I would decide if I needed to take her to the vet.  So then I thought of the “miracle cure” that brought molly back from the brink of death… “Peanut Butter sandwiches”!! I figured she needed protein to fill her up and restore her energy so I would make them and tear off in pieces so she could eat. After about 3 days of this she began to walk around and go do her business in the yard.  She was slobbering a lot and leaking feces so I decided to take her to the vet and make sure.  He ran tests and nothing came back and gave me a couple of prescriptions and by the evening she was her happy self and ready to eat everything in site like she used too!!

I wanted to share a positive story as animals become part of the family and as has done everything I asked to chasing the buzzards that fly in the sky to eating the mayflies that try to get into the house during the Spring so I decided this was worth my effort to help save Molly along with a little prayer to God!!

molly

I have made several posts about the cowboy hat I wear for the dance competitions. As I make this post I am on the way to another event to compete in and once again it will be an opportunity to wear this hat once again.  Some may say “what is the big deal” about wearing a cowboy hat, and I say there is not but it is to me for what it represents and not what it is.

This cowboy hat gives me the opportunity to focus on something (dance competition) that has given me balance and a peace at this point in my life that I may not have had.  For example; I work for a corporation and have been doing what I do for about 20 years, but don’t get me wrong I enjoy what I do but overtime things can get on your nerves.  If all I had was this job and my whole meaning and focus was my job and trying to climb a corporate ladder with others in control of your destiny, this could make for miserable life and probably why people turn to substance abuse.

But for me, I have found something in dance competition to take my mind off all this crap which helps me clear my mind and re-vitalize me! I have to work hard a spend a lot of time practicing to be ready.  I hope I do well and win, but if I don’t that is ok because at this point in time  I believe God has delivered the very thing to me that I needed to get over the hurdles I have faced at this point in life and I will be forever thankful!!

Below is a pic of me and what I will wear on Sunday!! Lol  I am wearing a Cowboy Hat!!

 

Me and the cowboy hat have an appointment tomorrow a 1:00!

 

As I post this blog I am a few hours away from leaving for me next dance competition this weekend and donning this cowboy hat that seems to have become part of my life even though I had no idea that it would!! I have posted before how OCD I was about wearing a cowboy hat etc.. so I will not go into that again, but suffice it to say I have become more accustomed to it as part of my dance attire!  Anyway, what I wanted to post about is what the “cowboy hat” has helped me to achieve in the personal aspects of my life and goals.

I am attending my third competition and have practiced and planned accordingly in hopes of improving my scores. With my last competition I was not satisfied with what I scored so I changed my game plans and prepared differently than my prior two times with more practice and lesson time. At this point I have had positive feed back from my partner and coach that things seem to look better and I am doing some of the necessary things to succeed.  I have approached this situation differently than the last two times with the following philosophy: 1)work hard, 2)have a good attitude, 3)listen to the coach.  I believe I did those things enough, but maybe not enough I just don’t know.

I also recognize that the things I have done differently may not work, or when it comes to show time I could make a mistake and that is just part of it.  But what I wanted to say is this; I have set the goals listed above and have tried to the best of my ability to make them happen. I have come to a point in my life that am tired of chasing things like money, promotions in a corporation, and things that do not have meaning in life.  As I make this transition from “chasing” these things I find myself to be a more content man and put my efforts into things that have meaning in life.

Some may say “how is this dancing give meaning to your life”?  I realize “different things have different meanings” for all people, but doing this competitions and learning to dance correctly has helped me interact with people I would have never made a connection with and this gives me satisfaction that maybe my actions or words have influenced someone in a positive way.  What I am doing with “my hobby” if you want to call it is give me a more balanced life and help take the stress away from the corporate world and for that I am thankful.  Because and the end of my life I will not be saying “wished I had worked more nights and weekend”!! I don’t plan on having any regrets and the end but I might wished I had taken dancing up sooner as it has given me an excitement for life that I haven’t had in a long time.

So if you take anything away from my post is to find something other than the everyday mundane things of life and do something that gives you excitement and joy in your life!! Don’t sit around and wait!! Take action and enjoy the life you have because none of us know when it will be over!

I wanted to make a short post has things have been hectic. I have been informed by people with experience regarding cowboy hats that mine does not fit so I need to add and extra layer of weather strip in the band so it will fit properly! This is too funny to me being a “rookie cowboy” and all. I am wearing this for my dance competition so I have to get it right because I have raised my bar high! Now I am trying to talk myself into the cowboy shirt I should wear and I think “Oh lord what have I become!! lol

Right after thanksgiving my dog molly was moping around the house with her tail between her legs and in pain.  She started vomiting on Friday and this lasted through the weekend so I decided to take her to the Veterinary on Monday.  She was examined and diagnosed with pancreatitis so she was kept at the hospital for a few days and I picked her up today and she looked much better and is now on a restrictive diet.

I post about this for several reasons and wanted to share with everyone.  Molly is 11 1/2 year lab mix so she is getting to the end of her life, but I felt that I owed it to her to find out what was wrong and give her a chance.  I thought about all the joy she has brought to our family and all the things she does when I ask, like when I say “sic’em” about the rabbits in the backyard or when a bug is crawling in the house I will say ” get it Molly” and she does and gets a treat.  The bill was over $300 and during this economy and Christmas right around the corner it was not a good time for this but she deserved to have a chance and I don’t regret giving it to her.

Secondly, some may ask… What caused the pancreatitis and I can tell you that it was probably from the neighbor. I mentioned this in a post long ago about the neighbor feeding her frozen blocks of hamburger and turkey carcases.  I have told them this is not good for her so this weekend before I went to the vet I called to inform of the situation and to please stop doing this as this is not fair to her plus costs me a lot of money.

Anyway, all is well tonight and Molly is home sitting at my feet while I post this blog.  I know she is just a dog but somehow I think they know more than we give them credit for and I know she wanted us to help her and we did.  With anything in life I always like to say I did all that I could in a particular situation and know that I can sleep at night because I did.

I have posted a picture of molly below:

I have posted about our dance lessons and meeting new people and how fun this and got me to thinking about this and how we have been treated by some church members in the past in comparison to how we have been treated by our new relationships in the last few years.  For starters this is not a slam on the Church as I am a Christian, served on committees, attending regularly etc… all my life so my view is from extensive experience.  When we began to take our lessons and go to the local “honky-tonk” several people came right up to talk with us, within a few months we were invited with the group to a cookout, we went to the gun range together etc… and have made some good friends.  A few months later we met a different set of couples and within a few months they were inviting us to go on their out-of-town dance trips they had been taking together for several years and accepted us into their group which I thought was awesome.

In comparison to some church’s I have attended there are group’s already established and they do not want to let you in. Or, some people are self-righteous because they think you don’t attend enough and judge you for it.  Of all places where you should be included and not judged for things out of your control is in your Church!! I hope people who call themselves Christians really think this is ok?? The Church is not a country club for certain people to decide if they are good enough to be included or not.  It is sad that I can meet people who are not regular church attenders treat me better than some I have gone to Church with and it should not be this way. Then some wonder why Church attendance is dropping in this country and can’t figure out why.  We all can make mistakes and not realize what our attitude can do someone else, but if you did make an honest mistake then own up to it and try not to do it again, but don’t continually have a sorry attitude towards someone else especially in Church and if you are a Christian.